When and where were you born?
I was born in San Francisco, CA on December 24th, 1986.
What was your childhood like?
Gosh, thinking about my earliest childhood memories came probably from preschool if you could believe it. SF was hit with a huge earthquake in 1989. I can’t even believe that I could remember something back from when I wasn’t even 3-years-old. I remember being at my babysitter’s house, and we were standing in a doorway. I can’t remember all of the details but I remember watching the fish tank and all of the water sloshing and spilling over the top. That’s probably one of the earliest memories I can think of.
I feel like the majority of my childhood was going to school and going back and forth between my parents. When living in SF, I didn’t do a ton of playdates but did hang out with a lot of family and close family friends. (Side note, I think this is great, my kids don’t have any family that is close in age.. So I am always envious of those who have a ton of cousins..)
The Summer of second grade, my life changed drastically and we made the move from San Francisco to Los Angeles. I started a new school and had to make new friends and find a new groove. LA life was super different– we didn’t’ have to get on a freeway to get to school, kids played outside, and the weather was incredible. Every other weekend for several years I flew up to SF to see my dad and family and holidays were split. 🙂
Do you remember your first crush?
Totally. This boy in kindergarten– his name was Stephen. He was so stinking cute and he would play Aladdin with me. *swoon* We would pretend we were on a magic carpet. It was the BEST. I LOVE Aladdin.
Who was your first love?
Brendan- he’s my only love. My lord, I have loved many people in my life, but nothing is comparable to this. He is by far my one and only. There has and never will be a love like the kind he and I share. We equal each other out so perfectly. I am SO lucky to have found him. I’m not saying that things are always peachy because life is hard; we have had more than a handful of tough times but we prevail. We always will. Love you forever babe.
One of the most important lessons that you’ve learned in your life?
For the daily- patience and compassion. I know it doesn’t seem like a whole bunch, but it is something that I have been working on for some time. Patience and compassion are things that don’t have a cap and I am constantly battling yet ever evolving. I am a super impulsive person and super headstrong. With that being said, sometimes others around me suffer from erratic decisions and I have to swallow my everything and fix it. As a parent, I need to get my shit together and have patience and compassion. I’m working on that.
For life- Gosh it is short. Love your loved ones, hang out with them. You don’t know how long you have. It could change at an instant. I’ve gone through a lot of loss and the regret that looms over is incredible. No matter how annoyed you are, or how much work it is, just get there. Love whole heartily too. That’s a good one.
What are your hopes for your kids?
That they are happy. It is so hard being a kid today, I hope that they are truly happy. I hope that they know they are beyond loved and that they are able to achieve anything that they dream of. I just want my kids to be happy.
Where is your favorite place in the house to get in on after the kids go to sleep? (If and when?)
Get it while the getting is good. Kids don’t necessarily have to be down for the night. If I wait till they’re all asleep, sex would hardly ever happen. Learn to love a quickie. Better have done it than regret it. I don’t love one place better than the next but shower sex right now is probably my favorite.
What is your go-to alcoholic beverage to take the edge off on those really rough days?
Whatever is in my fridge! I usually always have vodka & La Croix so that’s a quick and satisfying go to. I love a pinot grigio too. I got hooked on boxed wine for a hot minute there and while it’s all fun, wine hangovers are the WORST.
How often do you date night?
We try and date night once a week. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but I think it’s so important to be able to check out, be one on one with your partner and do something. I swear the last few dates we went on ended up at the local grocery store for a pint of ice cream and whatever we were going to feed the kids the next day. Some of our favorite date nights are going to play darts and sharing a pitcher, going to the driving range, hitting up the newest dessert place in town or catching up on shows with some ice cream. I know it sounds silly, but between Brendan’s rehearsals/ gigs and me working nights, we don’t get to watch a ton of TV together.
Between jobs, kids, LIFE, who has the energy for a real sex life? (I’m talkin‘ 3+ days/ week) HOW!!
I’m 30!! Ha. My husband always said that women hit their sexual peak in their 30’s. Well, here I am. It’s something that we both love and well, we just make the time. Some weeks are spot on every day (sometimes twice) and we could go a week or two without. I usually am dying after that, but life happens and then we get back into a groove. Also, keep it spicy– like really spicy. Try new things, keep each other amped during the day, be open-minded. It’s fun.
What’s your favorite ’90s jam?
OMG, just one?? I’m obsessed with 90’s pop/hip-hop. TLC – No Scrubs but.. Hello, Nsync & Britney FOREVER.. Love me some Snoop. I’m all over the place.
What do you think about when you’re alone in your car?
I finally get to listen to what I want!
What do you work toward in your free time?
Self-care. There is really an array– but outside of the family time I really try and do me.
Teach me something I don’t know in the next five minutes.
I can still do the splits, I have a hand obsession, I wish that I could eat sushi every day. I am terrified shitless of birds, my husband is a musician, I crack my knuckles, toes, hips, back.. (it’s really terrible), I’m obsessed with dental hygiene — I always have a mint or gum, when I have gum– I can’t stop popping it (sorry). .
How would you rate your memory?
Selective. It’s good when it benefits me– like really freaking good. If it’s a deficit it’s not so great. I write a lot of things down. I keep notes for everything. I’m old school and keep a planner– (Hello! Erin Condren) I like to write it all down.
How would you convince someone to do something they didn’t want to do?
Persuade..smile..bribe.. Smile..and a few “common’s” I am really persistent. Some may say it’s a little aggressive but it’s always a good time.
What one event in your childhood had the greatest effect on your life?
I could go two separate ways on this. #1 divorce and #2 walking in on my parents getting it on.
WTF. Back then divorce was a choose a side type a thing that was mentally and emotionally traumatic. Something I never want to put my kids through. Something else I would never want to put my kids through is them walking in on me and my husband. I’ll never forget it. 8 years of having kids and I’m still in the clear. Literally, it’s so traumatic, so vivid.. It’s horrible. Lock your doors.
If you weren’t doing what you do today, what other jobs would you have?
I’d love to be a flight attendant. I toy with the idea ALL the time. I mean how awesome would it be to have your own schedule, work when it’s convenient and the benefits.. The BENEFITS that’s really where it’s at. Look out, you may see my flying your friendly skies 🙂 Do you think the stigma behind flight attendants are true?
Toughest Mom moments?
The toughest part about being a mom is laying down the law. What’s even harder is trying to figure out how to lay down the law when your kids just don’t listen. There are a million Mommy & Me types of classes to guide you through infancy and toddlerhood but.. After that, you’re left alone to fend for yourself. It’s freaking HARD. Raising 3 kids under 8 is hard. I guess this could go on and on, but being able to give each kid one on one time is also hard. They’re all so needy. So I guess being able to equally divide my time.
Why did you decide to create This Mom Uncensored?
Why..? Because there are a million other Mom blogs out there where you can find how to be the picturesque housewife & mom.. (if you’re looking for that, move on) and I wanted to create a place where Moms can come together for the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am here to support you, to comfort you in times of desperation, celebration and defeat and all things in between. This my friend, is a judgment-free zone.