How to keep it spicy while being a mom, especially a Mom with young kids. I can clearly remember the sleepless nights of having a newborn, boobs leaking all over the place and just the unknown of what the night and day was going to look like. Everything seemed like a blur and it was either going too slow or too fast. Well, I’m here to tell you, that after doing it 3 times, It gets better. I’m going to break this down for you right now and tell you a couple of things no one ever tells you about sex after having a baby.
6 weeks– it’s the magic number. No one ever skips the 6-week appointment. That’s when the doctor approves of intercourse, hooks you up with some sort of birth control if you need or want it and makes sure that you’re in tip-top shape. So, 6 weeks of no sex (after having a baby) shouldn’t be too much of a struggle but having sex while you’re 30-40 weeks pregnant isn’t a walk in the park for either party. So my guess is that it’s been WEEKS since anyone has gotten any– that’s if you’re a rule follower or you had a ton of sex at week 39 in hopes that you would deliver early. In any case, we all arrive at the same spot– having sex after giving birth.
Just keep in mind that you- – Mom, your body has just gone through the most AMAZING thing and created this beautiful baby and it took 9 months to create this baby inside of you and well, you’re not just going to bounce back in 6 weeks. There is a lot of healing to take place and even still at 6 weeks, you may not be ready to hop in the saddle.
I’m just going to rip off the band-aid..It’s going to hurt, you’re going to be dry and well, the first time there may not be any sex at all– so don’t be disappointed if sexytime doesn’t quite happen. So the essentials– RELAX, have time on your side (make sure your babe is asleep, like asleep asleep), have a glass of wine to relax (remember, it’s been a minute), lube and an open mind. Go slow, communicate and if all else fails, try again.